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Respect

My business trip to the west coast gave me occasion to interview two additional intellectuals on the topics of terror and intercultural relations. These were Dr. Philip R. Harris, who, as co-author of Managing Cultural Differences, now in its 8th edition, has provided the gold standard in facing our differences globally, for over 40 years; and Dr. Jeffrey Greenberg, Professor of Psychology at the University of Arizona, Tucson, who co-authored In the Wake of 9/11: The Psychology of Terror, with Sheldon Solomon and Thomas Pyszczynski.

I am fortunate to have known Phil Harris for over 4 decades, even before he began writing Managing Cultural Differences. When I first met him in Kamakura, Japan, in 1962, he was already a respected author and academic, but he was like a deer in the headlights when it came to intercultural issues. For almost 25 years, he had been encapsulated in the Franciscan Order as an educator. But it was my mother, Jeanne, who introduced him to the concept of culture, by giving him the book by anthropologist Ruth Benedict, The Chrysanthemum and the Sword. It was a turning point in his life and lead to his many writings on the concept of culture and its impact on human behavior. While a Fulbright professor in India, he traveled around the world, suffering in the process both “culture and re-entry shock.”

After lecturing at Sophia University in Japan, Phil spent three weeks with my family, and was introduced to our pseudo Japanese lifestyle of sleeping on the floor, with only a single space heater to warm an entire house, entirely devoid of weather stripping, in the middle of December. My mother was teaching English to Japanese businessmen in Tokyo, while my father served with the U.S. Navy, in Yokosuka. Phil was fascinated with the kaleidoscope texture of our lives, which included dealing with Japanese citizens in their own communities, only 17 years after World War II. All of us loved Japan, and my mother, who relished the entire experience, can be credited with insisting that we lived in a totally Japanese community.

When I boil it down now, in the fullness of time, I can say that what we all learned, in 1962, is that different cultures must first learn to respect one another. Only then can we ever hope to understand one another, and find peaceful and reasonable ways to live together. The differences among us are truly inconsequential, when compared to the similarities.

Subsequently, this cosmopolitan author and educator would marry my aunt, Dr. Dorothy Lipp, and together they managed dual careers in universities and international consulting. I interviewed him in October 2005 for my Words Matter™ television project. By the time of our interview, Phil had come a long way in his thinking. He left the Franciscans, in 1963, and had long since given up the fiction of the infallibility of the Catholic Church. His message was one of tolerance for all religions. He urged that Muslim Americans stand up for their rights as Americans, and help the rest of us understand the differences between their faith and the politics of their former countries, which all of them have left behind to find a better life, just as their predecessors of other faiths and nationalities have always done. Here are some of the key observations he made in that interview:

“Our problem is that a lot of Americans, who haven’t had the advantages of international education and travel, are rather myopic in their views of other people, who are different from them.”
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“It amazes me how our own political leadership, at times, is so blind to the historical and cultural implications of some of the things we do in the Middle East, and especially in Iraq.”
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“Once you begin to shift the mindset, then you get the changes in attitude and behavior.”

When I boil it down now, in the fullness of time, I can say that what we all learned, in 1962, is that different cultures must first learn to respect one another. Only then can we ever hope to understand one another, and find peaceful and reasonable ways to live together. The differences among us are truly inconsequential, when compared to the similarities.

Jeff Greenberg is the gentleman in the “Mad” hat, in Flight from Death. He has been instrumental in much of the field research, which has led to Terror Management Theory. Much of this research has been done with a concept called “reminders of death.” Normally, the subjects are divided into two groups. One group is subtly “reminded of death,” in some manner, while the other group is not. Then the subjects are asked to perform a task. Most often, the subjects with the “reminders of death” respond more aggressively, with a strong tendency to withdraw into the teachings of their cultural groups, however they may be described (religion, nationality, ethnicity, tribe, etc.).

Two examples, described in Flight from Death: The Quest for Immortality, are as follows:

1. Municipal Court Judges in Tucson were asked to complete a questionnaire. Half of the group received questions with “reminders of death,” while half did not. They were then given a “charge sheet” for a defendant accused of solicitation, and asked to set the bail. The average bail set by the judges, who did not receive the “reminders of death,” was $50. The average bail of those reminded of their death was $450.

2. Tabasco sauce is sometimes used by parents to punish their children. This is a form of child abuse. Participants were given a shot glass and a bottle of Tabasco sauce, and asked to put sufficient sauce into the glass to provide a sufficient punishment for someone (not a child, in this case, and the punishment was not actually inflicted on anyone). The participants, who did not receive “reminders of death,” put one or two drops into the glass, while those with the “reminders of death” put in much more, with some of them filling the glass. Seeing this tendency, in the experiment, which appears on the DVD, is sobering.

The researchers have pointed out that at the time of 9/11, a monumental “reminder of death” for all of us, American flags flew off the shelves of every merchant. Everyone wanted to own more symbols of our culture. I recall that, a few days after the event, an airline cabin attendant sat down beside me and literally grabbed my arm, as if for comfort, because I was wearing an American flag tie.

Our President’s re-election team probably used this research, to their advantage, during the 2004 election. All of us remember that many of the President’s campaign advertisements contained images of 9/11, “reminders of death” for this purpose. The objective was to manipulate voter psyches back toward this “defend the culture” point of view. Unfortunately, getting everyone whipped up in that way, does not serve our long term interests, though it got the Administration elected again, which was their objective.

Now we are faced with the task of getting all of our citizens, and everyone else in the World, to recall that the key to the survival of the human species is, very simply, respect.

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